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Habits are a funny thing. They are either effortlessly picked up and become part of our daily human function or not.
I’m sure at some point you’ve come across the saying,” It takes 21 days for (blank) to become a natural habit.”
But what about habits you don’t even realize you have? The habits you did not purposely try to adopt into your routine.
Yet, once pointed out by someone else, you say you’ve never noticed it was that big of a habit.
These types of habits can obviously be good, bad, weird, or just downright funny. So what happens when your kids start picking up your habits?(I have other moms sharing theirs later in this post.)
As a new and first time mom, I find it even more entertaining and a little scary if I’m being honest to see if my son will learn and develop any of my habits or my husband’s.
This is where I got to thinking about what habits could be brushing off on your children whether intentional or unintentional.
Unintentional and Problematic
Here’s a problematic habit I have noticed all to much and I too have been guilty of.
You do it while breastfeeding, while your kid is playing, and while they are sleeping.
You do it in the restroom, at dinner, and at family outings.
You’re doing it right now….
Yep you guessed it. You are on the phone…again.
This is one habit that for good or bad is taking society by storm and I have started to witness its effect on kids even babies!
Like I said, I too have been guilty of grabbing my phone to scroll social media while I breastfeed or even while my son is doing tummy time.
Hell, I’ve even scrolled Instagram while carrying him around the house trying to get him to fall asleep.
At first, you probably think it’s no big deal. He’s a baby they don’t understand yet.
But then fast forward to now, at 7 months of age, and it’s like crap now I have a problem.
I have to consciously make the effort now to put my phone out of his sight and screen face down.
Because now when he sees me on the phone answering a text or trying to take my millionth picture of him, he actively tries to grab the phone and at one point got upset he couldn’t have it.
That’s when I realized, I have a problem. And not a problem with my son wanting my phone, but I personally have a habit problem. A sort of phone addiction.
This should bug your conscious too if you relate to this. Here’s why.
How many times have you been out and you see young kids glued to a tablet or phone? How many times have you seen a parent give in and put on a cartoon on their phone and hand it to the kid to keep them quiet?
Maybe you have done it yourself and you don’t see the harm of it. After all, this is 2019 and technology is not going away.
Call me old school (dial up era, 90’s kid), but I do see the problems with it.
As a former teacher (middle school and high school), I saw first hand how our youth have become downright addicted to this powerful tool at our fingertips.
This tool is capable of being great because we can learn so much so quickly. Students can get answers to questions to help in the classroom, but sadly that’s not the case the majority of the time.
What I saw was endless selfies, Snapchat videos, games, texting, and kids tuned out from their peers through headphones.
I told myself (during pregnancy) I didn’t want to shelter my kid from the technology, but limit it in his youth so he sees and appreciates other things in the world and not a screen.
Agree to Disagree
This is where some parents will disagree. You can say they have endless learning apps now, apps for coloring, and apps of kid friendly games.
You can also argue that schools encourage the use of technology more and more. Which I know because as a teacher they wanted us to move a great deal of our assignments online.
I know it’s important to learn the ever changing technology so they can better adapt to a rapidly changing society. But I strongly believe there needs to be limits with our children.
Yep there I go sounding old again.
I want my kid to learn creativity and develop problem solving skills without the aid of tech. I want him to enjoy the outdoors more over fortnite or Minecraft. I want him to love reading books as well as learning to properly research for information online.
Most of all, I want him to know that his parents are there to give him attention and support over what’s going on in the world of Facebook.
So my husband and I have agreed to limit our phone use in front of him. It’s hard since we both have work that rely on it or the laptop, but we avoid doing our work in front of him.
At least for now at such a young age.
But Hey! Not all habits are bad remember? Many habits our kids pick up are also great! Or even silly.
I myself hope I can instill plenty of those habits in my son. As well as I’m sure that’s every parents hope.
To highlight that, I’ve asked a few moms of different aged kids to share what habit they have and noticed their kids picking up on.
Kathy at Diehka Fitness Fashions
I tend to have to remind my kids (10 and 3 years old) that I have already asked them to do something.
As in “Second time asked” or “This is the third time I’ve told you.” Apparently my 3 year old has taken this to heart as we found out on a recent out-of-town trip.
I was asking her a number of times if she needed to go to the bathroom and she replied the last time, exasperated, “No! I don’t need to go to the bathroom. I already told you three times I didn’t have to go!”
Jessica at Adventuring To Neverland
I’ve noticed our little one picking up anything language related. She has 3 different laughs to match her daddy’s and my own.
She also uses the word brother for any dog she may see. I think it’s safe to say she’s a sponge.
We can’t really tell if she’s picked other things up since she’s only 10 months old, butI can only imagine what she’ll copy!
Sonja at Too Much Character
My 3 year old brews my coffee for me. He gets out his step stool, chooses a pod, puts it in and then starts dancing to the sound of coffee being brewed. He knows that sound is music to the ears.
Recently at a stop light I heard his voice pipe up from behind me with a, “Come on, lady!” to a driver that wasn’t accelerating when it switched to green. I laughed hysterically because that is SO my husband.
Catrina at Love To Be A Mom
I am not the kind of mom who plays well. What I mean by that is that I have a really hard time getting down on the floor playing trains or dolls or trying to follow along with the
Not playing with your kids is not optimal and I knew I wanted to be an involved parent. So I decided that in order to be more involved with my children, I would need to do it a way that I would enjoy and that would be true to who I am.
Because of this, I started reading with them. In those early years, we would spend hours reading and re-reading book after book, creating beautiful memories, and avid readers.
As time went on, my children wanted to be involved in reading, even at early ages.
I started to teach them certain words, starting with “a” and “I” and they would read these words every time we came to them in the book.
This evolved into more and more words, eventually reading full books by themselves. Reading is now their absolute favorite pastime. They spend long, lazy days on the couch, bed, or floor with books in hand, lost in adventures of worlds unknown to them.
As I watch them read, I realize that the examples that I set for them are meaningful, impactful, and have lifelong effects. I am proud that they were able to gain a love of reading from our time together.
Donna at The Upward Blip
It is just second nature to me to say, “It’s okay. Mommy’s here. Mommy got you” every time my kids accidentally trip or hurt themselves.
So each time they hit me or poke my eye or elbow me and their dad by accident, they just pat our backs then give us a hug and say, “It’s okay, Mom/Dad.”
Jennifer at Failure To Thrive No More
One thing that I’ve noticed about JJ (5 years old) is that he loves electronics—tablet, iPad, X-Box, etc. I guess I can’t blame him, I am addicted to my phone.
It’s magnified since becoming a blogger with all of the networking I do. That and I’m always on the computer between school and blogging.
But the good trait that he got from me is the love of helping others. He’s very sweet, and I love watching him with his younger brother (2 years old) who has Dyrk1a Syndrome. He’s goofy like my husband, emotional like me.
He is a perfect mixture of my husband and
McKayla at Motivation For Mom
One good habit my daughter has picked up from me is her ability to be social and friendly with everyone. I’m very social, I can maintain a conversation with everyone, and I love to meet new people.
She’s exactly the same. She shakes people’s hands and says ‘nice to meet you’. She has wonderful manners and a polite attitude towards everyone. I’m so grateful for that!
One bad habit she’s picked up on from me, is being a total hypochondriac. I’m always paranoid somethings wrong, or something could be worse than it probably is.
She’s definitely has started mimicking my behavior. I’ve noticed that if she bumps her knee, she will insist on a band aid.
Then when dad comes home hours later, she will burst into tears talking about it to him, as if it had just happened. Her exaggeration and hypochondriac tendencies definitely came from me.
So while it’s apparent that our kids pick up some of our best or funny habits, we also have to be careful with others.
I know I can’t wait to see what my son picks up!
Just hopefully not my occasional sailor mouth, which will be a fun habit for me to try and limit. Because that’s all I need if for his first word to be the f-bomb.
So far he definitely has adopted my constant smiling. I’m the type that smiles very often and of makes silly faces. Greyson has become quite the smiley baby, we are always receiving compliments on what a happy baby he is. (My wish is it stays that way too!)
What habits have you noticed in your children that look oddly familiar? I would love to hear your stories in the comment section below!